Share Your Dreams
Too lazy to Google when the ‘shoot your shot’ phrase came into play, but it’s been around for a minute now. The idea is basically that you go for whatever you want because *insert talks about regret and how failure is an answer and ‘what if?’ is the worst phrase in the dictionary*.
Moral of the story is that it you should figure out what you want and go for it.
As someone who knows all this and doesn’t do much on this front, I can definitely tell you that it is NOT as simple as it sounds. P.S: Y’all, ‘if it was easy, everyone would be doing it’ crew, I can hear you, and I implore you not to attempt to think such rubbishes, hydrate and mind you good business as you do said uneasy stuff.
Now that we have that established, we can move on to the part where we actually find a way around this VERY difficult situation.
You know your circle, your squad, your squaaaa, (Nanti, there’s a difference between squad and squaaaa. LOL), your crew, them ride or dies? Naturally, I am not talking about your drinking buddies. In the same breath, I am also not saying that you throw them out because they do serve their purpose.
I am talking about your people; the ones that are routing for you. Yes, those ones. Talk to them.
What are your dreams? What do you want to want to achieve? Where do you want to be? Do you feel stuck? Do you feel lost? Do you not know how or what to feel? Talk to these people.
I recently shared some of my dreams with people in my life, and when I tell you that I have made more progress in one month than in forever, you wouldn’t believe me. But that is the truth.
Do you want to start a podcast? Talk to your people. One of them might know someone who knows someone who has a cousin who is married to a nephew who works with a guy who is an audio engineer and owns a studio and can hook you up to start a good quality podcast (because that stuff matters in the grand scheme of things) at an affordable or no fee.
This scenario can be played out with LITERALLY a gazillion dreams.
Some of you be moving mad so I need to clarify that you should not cultivate relationships with the goal of being a parasite to people. While you might think that you are being sleek, you are not the first close friend or its equivalent that these people have made so they will be able to tell the difference. Don’t play people because you are not as smart as you think you are.
That being said, your legit reciprocated relations are not only looking for an opportunity to help you and see your dreams come true, they might actually wonder what they could have done to make it possible for you to ask for their help, when they find out about your now dreams at a later date, and believe me, they WILL find out. Such is life.
Before I turn this into a thesis on asking for help, lemme wrap this up with a few things to keep in mind.
Don’t ask people for help before you are ready. Do not waste people’s time. Even if it is your identical twin, someone who wouldn’t be able to deny you and get away with it, take the time to make sure that you are ready for whatever support these people will give you. If you keep asking people for help and dropping the ball, they will eventually stop trying to make things happen for you. Believe me, I can feel the pressure.
Be ready to pay it forward. Disclaimer: Getting help from people doesn’t equal you being held hostage by them on future requests but you should most probably be willing to share the opportunity for success that others gave you. Be that as it may, your people know you. So, if you are not the kind of person who would help others out, I am sure that they are already aware of this, ergo you have no reason to pretend and later on ghost the person you are meant to be helping.
While it almost seems like having support from your people will make it easier, this couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, you have more leads to follow, which makes it harder than when you could say ‘I have done everything in my power’, with a straight face. It also means that more people know about your dream, and more people will be asking for updates on said dream. I mean, who doesn’t love accountability? Yaaaay!
It is still hard work, but hopefully having people routing for you, making introductions and standing with you will make it worth it to go through this your valley of shadow of whatever it is.
In the words of people waaaaaay younger than myself; You Got This!